Today Joe and I dropped our son off for a C.A.P. interview then I had a fabulous date with our daughter to the American Girl Store (an experience every young lady should have) It got me thinking about what it truly means to be a mother.
This is what I try and follow as a mom:
1. Available. We have to be available 24/7 for our kiddos. They have so many dreams and goals, we need to be available to help those take flight. Available means putting down the phone, shut off the computer and focus on them.
2. Listen. We need to listen not just to what their mouths are saying, but what their heart is saying. We need to pay attention and listen to their precious hearts.
3. Communicate. Have an open relationship with your kiddos (healthy boundaries of course) Let them speak their mind freely then if need be correct them or give parental advice. Allow yourself to open up and speak freely as well. They can glean from your experience.
4. Apologize. This is one of the most important things we can do when it comes to a healthy relationship. Pride can get in the way and we think cause we are parents we don't have to apologize. If we expect our kiddos to make thing right when they mess up we should do the same.
5. Fun. Do fun things and get to know your kiddos outside the seriousness of life. They need to laugh and be kiddos. They need to be silly, blabber on and on, get "high" off soda. I like when my kiddos get all wound up and the giggles and snorts come out.
6. Fail. We have this rule in our house" You will fail and be ok with failing, BUT you need to pick yourself up, and learn where you went wrong. Then when the problem arises again you already have tools to make sure you succeed." You will be stronger in the long run!
7. Love. Love with every ounce you have, not with money or stuff. Just your words, hugs, and kisses will do. Always be quick to say "i love you"
8. Dates. Go on "dates with your kiddos. Get to know them as the little people God created them to be. They have beautiful personalities and talents. This is one of my favorite things to do with my kiddos!!
9.Example. Try to be the example your kiddos will follow into their adulthood. Teach them morals and kindness. An example of love and loving people will make this world a bit better.
10. Breath. I am not a perfect mom, and I don't have perfect kiddos, but they love me just the way I am and think I am fabulous. I think the same thing of my kiddos!!
I would never ever in my life trade the job of motherhood for anything else. I believe that my whole purpose in life was to be a mom and wife. I love it so much. I am blessed with the kiddos I have and love watching them grow up into adults. I enjoy the hard days, you know the ones where you are so frustrated that you wanna pull your hair out and wish unpleasant thoughts ( we all have them) to the days that are pure bliss and almost perfect and every day in between. We will rob ourselves the joy of motherhood if we live through our children, make our dreams comes true through our children but if we walk along side them, listen to them, and their dreams then teach/equip them as to what they can do to make them flourish (even if they change) then we will see their true potential. It is beautiful watching our son going after his dream of flying. He said he never ever wanted to be in the military, well for the last 3 years that dream has changed and he wants to fly and serve our country. Our daughter changes her mind almost daily, the one we are stuck on now is music. We shall see what comes of it. I am glad to be alongside them watching and listening! Thank you Lord for my family.
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